Sip on this soup from Mr. Josh Shipp.
Here are seven things that every kid needs to hear, regardless of their age or stage in the journey …
๐ญ. ๐ ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐.
This is crucial. Always be intentional in saying this to your kids. If they donโt hear it from you, who will they hear it from?
๐ฎ. ๐โ๐บ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐.
As parents or caring adults, we must applaud effort more than achievement. Achievement is often subjective to the group we are competing against. Donโt ask them to be the MVP of the team but encourage them to be a TEAM player.
๐ฏ. ๐โ๐บ ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐.
We have to model what it looks like to be an adult and apologize when we make mistakes. Kids learn a little bit from what we say; they learn a little more from what we do but learn the most from what we model.
๐ฐ. ๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐.
Young people must know if you want to succeed, you must be willing to fail. They are going to screw up; it happens! The question is always: what will you do when you mess up? By saying I forgive you, kids know itโs ok to admit mistakes.
๐ฑ. ๐โ๐บ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
Once your child is a pre-teen or teen, the name of the game isnโt about control; itโs about influence. You canโt control a 15-year old, but you can influence them to make mature decisions by listening and asking them strategic questions.
๐ฒ. ๐ง๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐. Donโt bail your kid out of problems they can solve. Instead, take the posture of a COACH: Prepare them before the game. Cheer from the sidelines during the game. Review what went well and didnโt after the game.
๐ณ. ๐ฌ๐ผ๐โ๐๐ฒ ๐ด๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ๐.
They need to know that YOU know they have what it takes. If they know you believe in them, theyโre better prepared to take baby steps to accomplish their goals and face those difficult situations.
LAST BUT NOT LEASE: NO.
Sometimes the most loving and caring thing you can tell a kid is NO. Rest assured, they wonโt like it at the moment. But later, they shall circle back and praise your brilliance. Saying NO to the wrong things allows us to say YES to the right things.